Oh, how I hate to see that dreck making bank at the theatre. Thing is, erotica for women is so thin on the ground in popular culture that crap like this gets made into a movie, whereas the quality stuff like The Boss series doesn’t. However. Let’s hope the FSOG horror show opens up the market for better things (and full male nudity in film, which I hear didn’t happen in a film meant for horny heterosexual women, WTF?!). In the meantime, those of us who hate FSOG can continue to say why it’s so horrible. Other than the fact it won’t show us whole nekkid dudes, I mean.
“Get Over It!” How not to respond to critics of 50 Shades of Grey. Very useful for those people in your social media feeds who get ragey when you say mean things about their favorite things.
Don’t Do This Ever: “Giant piece of human garbage” edition. This is how EL James responds to rape victims. EL James is a terrible human being, and I hope she loses all of her money paying penalties for tax fraud or similar, and that the government uses the money she’s had to cough up in back taxes, fines, and penalties to open new domestic violence shelters and start a training program on BDSM.
Speaking of domestic violence, donating to a shelter or program would be an excellent way to counter the terrible messages of these terrible books by this terrible person. Especially if you enjoyed the books or the movies. Which you can! All of us love problematic things. But be wary of campaigns that are shadier that Fifty Shades himself.
In case you were wondering if EL James’s loyalest fans are less terrible than she is: they are not. At least one of them doxxed a blogger who explored the domestic violence in Fifty Shades. The good news from that roundup, though, is that EL James is trying to take total control of the movie franchise, which should result in films so horrible that even her mostest loyalest fanatics might realize their hero is selling them frothy pig shit and calling it lurrrv.
Samantha Field wrote a piece about her abusive relationship: I Dated Christian Grey: How Women Are Groomed For Abuse. Those women who are in denial about Christian Grey’s abusive qualities might need you to gently shove this under their noses, so that they’re reminded that even beautiful people can be horrible. Samantha follows up that post on her own blog.
Roxane Gay’s thoughts on the movie can be found here, and they are insightful, funny, and may make you feel better if these books are guilty pleasures for you.
Two folks from the BDSM scene chat about the movie, and it’s made of awesome. I especially love we’re getting the rare perspective of a male sub here.
Cynthia Jeub has written an open letter to Ana Steele, reminding us that Ana isn’t to blame for her own victimization, which is a very good thing to keep in mind.
Just when you didn’t think it could possibly be any worse: the conservative Christian crowd has a movie out that is their alternative to FSOG. It starts with the male protagonist making the lady go stand out in the cold because he’s too honorable to be alone with a woman. I’m with Iris Vander Pluym: please do not ever marry us, Christian d00ds. Stay far, far away.
Now. In the wake of the FSOG crapfest, can we please get some movies out that show consensual, kinky, hot-as-habanero relationships that don’t include abuse or stalking perpetrated by the romantic lead? Please?