This video is one of the most thought-provoking, as well as difficult to watch, things I’ve seen in a while. It’s 7 minutes long, so you might want a cuppa before watching. Is the LGBT community biphobic to the extent that bi people should leave?
This is something where his premise is correct, and his conclusion.. incredibly saddening. Is this really all we can do? Is the LG(bt) community really so beyond help?
But then again, in another way I know that there is a lot of truth to what he says. I didn’t start Bi Ireland and spend the past few years working on that community just for fun. I did it because I was tired of hearing bi people talk about never having knowingly been in a room with other bi people. Or of abuse and exclusion from lesbian and gay (let’s be real: if they exclude bi people, they’re not LGBT. And they’re probably terrible to trans people too) communities. Teenagers being kicked out of Pride parades by biphobic gay people. Looks of disgust on gay people’s faces when they came out to them. A neverending litany of microaggressions leaving people feeling like, wherever their home is, the gay community isn’t it.
But on the other hand? I hate the idea of giving up on LGBTQIA. Partly that’s due to the many wonderful lesbian and gay people I’ve known, with whom I have felt community. I call myself queer because queer spaces have always felt right to me, in a way that straight spaces don’t. I feel like my space in that community isn’t something that can be given or taken away by lesbian or gay people. It’s as much of my birthright as it is theirs, isn’t it?
I don’t have an answer. I’d love to hear what you all think, though. It feels like a conversation to have.
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