Dating Immodesty



A Mandesty reader sent this in and I realized that dating sites are a great place to find men who need to learn of Modesty for Men.

This fellow above is a perfect example of the type of man I mean. These men post seductive pictures and then complain women don’t respect them and only want sex. Men, how do you expect to find a woman “with substance” if you’re displaying yourself like a piece of antelope ass? How do you expect hungry lions women to handle that kind of pressure?

Honestly, I blame the fathers. They’re out there modeling this behavior so their sons think it’s perfectly normal.

It’s a damn shame.

Dating Immodesty

Tans and Deceit


Look at this young man’s dead eyes. If only to distract you from his unibrow.

Readers we haven’t talked about it before but this photo reminds me: Men attempt to deceive women by using spray tans. This is why women have trust issues. They believe their man is naturally tanned when in reality he’s nothing but a toasted marshmallow. This is why you take them swimming on the first date.


Tans and Deceit

Pillows and the Devil


Folks I am beginning to suspect that emoji pillows are in cahoots with the devil.

Men, we have talked about this. Pillows are NOT for that head.

I worry for today’s generation of men. They see and think it’s perfectly acceptable to do rub pillows on their private parts. How do you sleep at night? I bet not very well since you’ve worn out your pillows.

Pillows and the Devil

Food goes IN your Mouth

At Mandesty, we’ve discussed immodest men and cats, dogs, birds and even clothes. But readers, I never thought I would ever have to discuss modesty and food.

Sir, wouldn’t you rather taste modesty?

Immodesty isn’t Sweet!

Sir, sir. I think you misunderstood the term “Netflix and Chill”.

I’m very confused.


Young man, I’m not even going to attempt to make sense of this. But I assure you, Bessie wasn’t milked so you could do whatever it is that you’re doing to those milk jugs.

Got Immodesty?
Food goes IN your Mouth

Clothed Immodesty

Readers, many men think that by simply covering up, they’re engaging in Mandesty. Unfortunately, that is not the case. As we’ve discussed before Modesty is also about your attitude and how you carry yourself. But Modesty is also about WHAT you wear.

Sir, those pants are too tight! Please, think of your future children and let that area breath!

What is going on with those sleeves?


Here we have the reverse problem. OK pants, but the shirt, sir. That V-neck isn’t modest. No one will look at your eyes.

What is the point of suspenders?
Why bother wearing clothes at all, young man?!

As we all know, mainstream media isn’t immune from immodesty.

Captain America: Immodest Soldier

Oh Mr. Rogers…this isn’t the American way at all.

Clothed Immodesty

Mandesty: What is it & Style Tips

Simply put Mandesty is modesty for men.

But WHAT is modesty? Well, the dictionary defines it as,

the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one’s abilities.
“with typical modesty he insisted on sharing the credit with others”
synonyms: self-effacement, humility, unpretentiousness;

the quality of being relatively moderate, limited, or small in amount, rate, or level.
“the modesty of his political aspirations”

synonyms: limited scope, moderation
“the modesty of his aspirations”
behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency.

plural noun: modesties
“modesty forbade her to undress in front of so many people”

synonyms: unpretentiousness, simplicity, plainness
“the modesty of his home”

We’ve all seen modest dress guides for women. We’ve all shared a meme rightfully shaming a starlet for immodest dress. So, when I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, making sure my friends were part of the 3% who shared that meme about Jesus, I came across many posts showing half-naked men. It occurred to me that we aren’t teaching our boys modesty. So, I took up the challenge. I also share some quick ways to ensure you’re modest in dress, young men!

Men, you don’t want to cause lustful thoughts in women! In order to avoid that refrain from the following:

Tight or see-through tops are a big no-no. Your sacred nipples are for your wife’s eyes only.
Avoid showing your shoulders and back. It is well-known that women cannot control themselves at the sight of bare shoulders. It is on you to not cause impure thoughts in others.
Long or three-quarter sleeves are ideal.
Shorts should not be above the knee. The short shown below are an appropriate example of modest dress:


Bonus: All those extra pockets will come in handy for your pocket bibles!

Make sure the pants are loose enough as to not accentuate your naughty lumps.

What you wear is not only an expression of yourself but it also sends a message to others. Think: How do you want others to see you? Do want the future mother of your children to think of you as easy?
How would feel if your son dressed immodestly?
Fathers, it is up to you!

Finally, aside from these style tips, I advise you to keep your body hair to a minimum. That is, you should only have hair on your head and brows. Excess body hair is unsightly and unhygienic. Avoid tattoos and piercings. Your body is a precious temple!

And the best style tip of all: SMILE! You never know when you might run into The One. You don’t want her thinking you have a full range of human emotions, now do you?!

Oh and as for the offending “friend” sharing those immodest pictures, I sent them a strongly worded PM and then I reported them to Facebook. Nothing happened and then I realized why! Mark himself has fallen for the depravity of the world! I pray he may learn of modesty.



Mandesty: What is it & Style Tips