Today in “White Gamerbros Suck Again”: Hypocrisy and Baldur’s Gate

CN: transphobic slur and description of transphobic violence

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Today in “White Gamerbros Suck Again”: Hypocrisy and Baldur’s Gate


The last post I made before the move over here was about what trans women want to do in the bathroom. It was a response to the idea passed around by conservatives and TERFs that suggested cis men go into the ladies room and drop trou.  It is pretty gross, but would anyone actually even try this?

You know where this is going, right? Get your facepalms and headdesks ready!

Fayetteville councilman John La Tour is being accused of confronting a woman he assumed was transgender and threatening to wave his penis at her at a crowded restaurant.

The woman in question? Cis. (which is probably why the town is in a uproar in the first place)

Not that it matters, because YOU DON’T THREATEN TO WAVE YOUR DICK AROUND to total strangers.  Not even to people you know, unless they’ve signed on to your literal dickery. What the fuck is wrong with this guy?

What is it about trans folks that turn some cis folks into complete perverts? They wanna know what’s in your pants, how do you fuck, how do you pee, and then what? They whip out their bits and dangle them to prove that they have no idea what women/non-binary folks in the ladies room do in there.

And it leads to shit like this and WORSE. People, cis men to be specifically, thinking they can A) spot a trans woman and B) can freely abuse based on that.  We already have a serious issue with trans women being beaten and outright murdered by cis men who can’t handle that the woman they may know might – MIGHT – have been born with a penis.

Cis men are so damned insecure. And it’s deadly.


Photo by forzaq8


Trans Women in the Loo

(I’d say trans people, but let’s face it, most of the people behind these bathroom bills give much more of a fuck about trans women because ZOMG penis then for trans men. But the risks of assault and arrest for everyone is shitty.)

Thanks to encouragement by some groups for cis men to walk into the ladies room and show off their best helicopter dick, here is a short list of things conservative and TERFs think trans women want to do in the loo:

  • Whip out their dicks
  • Molest ‘real’ women and girls
  • Get man cooties all over “women’s” spaces.


Here’s what trans women actually want to be able to do in the loo:

  • What everyone else is doing.


And in case you’re unclear, that’s

  • Pee
  • Poop
  • Wash hands
  • Check hair
  • Check makeup
  • Check clothes
  • Change a baby
  • Accompany a little kid who needs to pee/poop
  • Sit on a toilet seat and cry


And hey, because trans women are people too, let’s go for the not so savory things people do in the bathrooms:

  • Snort coke
  • Smoke weed
  • Bone a stranger you just met at the club/bar
  • Get into a hair pulling fight with some so-and-so taking up too much space at the mirror
  • Drunkenly make new friends they’ll promptly forget
  • Puke


…And that’s all.  That’s it.  Not so scary, huh?



Trans Women in the Loo

Invoking “Black Lives Matter” – DON’T DO IT

I didn’t want to get involved in the whole “Ophelia Benson reveals her TERFy self” nonsense, given how it’s hurt and tore through my friends lists.

I really didn’t.

The current flap has been dutifly and wonderfully documented by some fine folks and former colleagues of hers, here, here, here, and here.  I’m with them.  “Correcting” an abortion provider for using more inclusive language is shitty, petty, and downright trolly.  So that’s handled and I don’t have to go in about it. Thanks, y’all.

But I AM gonna mention the fucked up comparison of inclusive language to “All Lives Matter”.

What the fuck?

Seriously, what the fuck?

If this wasn’t the most White Feministy of White Feminist (TM) nonsense, I’d eat my hat.  As soon as I get a hat.

This isn’t the first time a white person has tried to invoke BLM/ALM for some other bullshit, but damnit, it’s getting tiring.  You can’t compare a movement about black people being shot, beaten, killed in the streets by cops to whatever bullshit bugbear that’s bothering you.  You can’t.  Because it’s comparing apples to a fucking grenade with the pin pulled. Stop it.

It’s not the same, it’s not remotely the same, and it reminds me why I’m always wary of white feminists who seem to forget that whole “intersectionality” thing. You’re not on my side.  I don’t want you on my side.  Our struggle isn’t fodder for your bullshit.

(Mod Mistress Note: We’re not rehashing any old arguments about “who/what/when/where/why is a TERF or whatever “here. Try it and watch your comment not even make it through modding, kay?)

Invoking “Black Lives Matter” – DON’T DO IT