Another tragedy has hit the Black community. Race-based. A terrorist attack in a house of worship.
I’ll leave it for others to talk about the details, because I’m still full of so much anger and rage and misery just thinking about it.
What I want to rant about is something related. Look, White people, I know one of the stereotypes you hold about Black women is that we’re happy to hear your problems and hold your hand as you try to process how shit it is to be us living in this world, but we can’t right now. To be honest, we’ve never been able to, and it’s caused a great deal of social media strife. White people accusing us of being angry, of lumping all White people together, of not being civil enough. White people waving their burnt asses around after they stumble into a conversation and try to make it about their ignorance – and get the roasting they very well fucking deserve.
#NotAllWhites this and #NotAllWhites that.
And we need that shit to stop. Post-haste. I know we’re scary when the Blacks are angry, but you’ll just have to fucking deal. “Reminding” us of #notallwhites isn’t even for us, it’s for you. You want us to reassure you that you’re one of the “good ones”, and that’s some fucked up shit when we’re hurting, which makes us even angrier and more hurt. We don’t have mental space or spoons or whatever to tend to your owies. If you were really as much of as ally as you claim to be, you’d understand that and gives us the space and support we need to process when more Black bodies are added to the groaning pile of proof that racism isn’t over.
What should you do? I’ll happily give you some suggestions, for free. You don’t even have to thank me.
This racist shitstain was reported as saying some “You rape our women” BS while he was murdering folks. That claim was for you, White women. That claim spoke for you, White men. Don’t agree? Time to make that known. Post it on FB, start a fucking hashtag on Twitter or Tumblr, write a blog post (the two linked are great), share a blog post that already states your disagreement on your social media.
Aww, you don’t think you have to go that far? Everyone knows that you don’t agree with RacistFuck McBowlCut? Are you sure? Maybe your non-White friends would at least appreciate that sort of reminder. I know I’d appreciate it a lot more than yet another #notallwhite plea that insults my intelligence.
Not fair? Think about what Black people and Muslims have to do when one of ours fucks up. Posts, speakers, hashtags, all disowning the fucker, and if we don’t do it fast enough, we’ll have folks wondering why we’re not speaking up?
It’s not like we’re asking for the moon and fucking stars here, White friends, supposed White allies. Nothing more than what we have to do.
Now get to it.