Comments for Scrappy Deviation https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/ Sat, 02 Nov 2019 17:58:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.6 Comment on Nudity and the Desexualization of Bodies by Fred (Au Naturel) https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2016/05/19/nudity-desexualization-bodies/#comment-1327 Sat, 02 Nov 2019 17:58:19 +0000 http://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=302#comment-1327 I like to hang out with a nudist crowd myself. Or I’ll go for long nude hikes in the backcountry – unfortunately usually solo.

My interest in nudity started long before puberty ever set in. I’m not obsessed about it but it has been a lifelong interest. I consider myself just a “nudie” rather than a nudist or naturist. Labels like that bug me because they have all kinds of preconceived expectations associated with them.

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Comment on Prepping While Progressive: A Practical Perspective by Evil Paul https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2019/08/08/prepping-while-progressive-a-practical-perspective/#comment-1307 Sat, 10 Aug 2019 21:30:16 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=892#comment-1307 You’ve hit upon one of the two things that REALLY pisses me off about right-wing preppers (after the paranoia and racism, that is). If you want to survive an emergency, a disaster, or the apocalypse or whatever, your best tool to ensure your survival is a COMMUNITY.
Your family, your household, your neighbours and circle of friends. If the people around you are doing well, then you’re that much better off as well. Conversely, if one person is in trouble but the rest of the community is doing well, it only takes a minor effort on anyone’s part to keep that individual afloat.
All these right-wing clowns seem to be married to the ‘Lone Survivor’ idea. They think they’re going to be Mad Max and they’ve never had to organize something basic like an overnight Fire Picket.
Learning First Aid (or better yet, volunteering as a First Aider) is probably some of the best prepping you can do to prepare for any emergency. Even if you never have to deal with a full life-or-death emergency, you’ll still learn how take charge and sort things out.
The second thing that bugs me about right-wing preppers is how quick they latch on to guns. I mean, I love guns, but they are the last thing you need in a crisis.

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Comment on Trans Antagonism in Star Trek: Discovery by Mal https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/02/08/trans-antagonism-star-trek-discovery/#comment-1217 Fri, 01 Mar 2019 17:25:16 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=801#comment-1217 I am agender nonbinary myself (sometimes I read femme to people and sort of feel it too), I don’t identify (as) trans*, however I do identify (with) TIN politics in general and I go to Hanlon’s Razor on stuff like you mentioned for Discovery: ‘assume stupidity rather than malice’. That doesn’t mean it’s not just as bad to unconsciously reproduce harmful mores/narratives through media tropes.

It’s nice to see Hugh has been resurrected though!

I am also hopeful about the future of gender nonconforming representations in Star Trek. Looking at reddit and other sources, I am concerned that such representations will take on forms which may deconstruct outsiders stereotypes and implicit biases, only to give them a set of new, albeit less harmful ones.

I found a reddit from about a year ago where trans* issues are completely viewed through a medical lens (with sympathy) and the experience of dysphoria. Of course, defining identity through personal pathology is not the way forward for all of us, IMO (see: https://www.reddit.com/r/startrek/comments/80ylgd/trek_fans_in_the_trans_community_how_would_you/ ).

After reading through and speaking to many other Trek fans it’s hard for me to come to any other conclusion than that there are a great deal of cis people sympathetic to what Roddenbury was trying to do and want to see such representations done right, but have no fucking clue what they would look like. No concept of understanding individualised “hormone protocals” vs “hormone therapies” (the latter being an implicit pathologisation and thus stigmatisation for many people) or the individual choices people make about their bodies (the myth of ubiquitous bottom surgeries or the all-in-one SRS isn’t even addressed in the reddit though you can see it’s what many are probably assuming).

In my perfect world, TIN characters difference would be commented on no more often or more matter-of-factly than Patrick Stewart’s baldness or in the way many women have been treated be patriarchies of other species in the series. Roddenbury was once asked in reference to Picard before TNG really picked up, ‘surely baldness would have been cured by the 24th century?’, his reply, ‘by the 24th century nobody will care’ as someone who is bald that was one of the most meaningful messages I could have heard. I would like to think that attitude can be applied to all these unecessary patholigisations. Left-handers have been persecuted in some parts of the world, but for many today they are mostly just left-handed, sans pathology, with custom scissors and such. I would also like to see TIN characters presented not as tokens or vast representations but actual individuals with their own quirks of presentation or self-representation and complicated relationships. It would be nice to see a future in which TIN-fetish or -taboo’s have been so dissolved that characters don’t consider their own journey of gender self-discovery differently from all others (except in those quirks that make all of us different). And on that point, lots of folks in the reddit and IRL say things like “it shouldn’t even need to be mentioned”, but then again we do talk about “men” and “women” all the time in the Star Trek universe and as at least one user pointed out not all gender nonconformers feel comfortable with that binary.

Imagine a character that is written to read no differently than a man* would to many today, but identifies as a woman* and is universally engaged with as such in-show with zero comment except maybe for episodes where other more binary/essentialist oriented species’ societies are confused (leading to a discussion of dysphoria). Or a fluid or two-spirit person whose genitals are never the topic of conversation, for whom there is no implied question-mark about “what’s going on down there”. Or a character, who feels and identifies as trans-masc for the first time as an adult and is not sure about their future (a presentation of gender fluidity over the lifespan), but does not constantly come into contact with doubt, pathologisation, and dysphoria, but rather is given universal support no different from other characters (kind of the way Uhura’s character is treated on the bridge in TOS in light of the specific racism and prejudices of the era of production). Or a person that was raised in isolation from the federation and abused for being agender coming to terms with being gender-normal for the first time in their life amongst a federation crew that accepts them for who they are.

Narratives like these could be so powerful, just looking at the effect that the almost 800 episodes of Trek (I am something of an amateur expert on the series) have had on our society, from technological to cultural I am not gonna give up on it yet :).

Thanks for sharing these thoughts, I am gonna keep talking to as many fans as possible about these things until it happens!

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Comment on I Have Siblings Everywhere by Actually Autistic Blogs List https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/07/15/i-have-siblings-everywhere/#comment-1102 Fri, 28 Sep 2018 19:55:35 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=849#comment-1102 Benny, your blog will soon be added to our Actually Autistic Blogs List (anautismobserver.wordpress.com). Please click on the “How do you want your blog listed?” link at the top of that site to customize your blog’s description on the list (or to decline).
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Comment on I Have Siblings Everywhere by Andy Semler https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/07/15/i-have-siblings-everywhere/#comment-1045 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 02:04:09 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=849#comment-1045 Aww, that’s wonderful!

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Comment on It Turns Out, I Wasn’t A Bad Kid by Raucous Indignation https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/01/10/turns-wasnt-bad-kid/#comment-971 Sat, 13 Jan 2018 00:30:26 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=787#comment-971 I’m feeling you, Benny. It’s always some failure of adults that lead to kids getting called Bad.

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Comment on It Turns Out, I Wasn’t A Bad Kid by Benny Vimes https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/01/10/turns-wasnt-bad-kid/#comment-970 Fri, 12 Jan 2018 20:29:26 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=787#comment-970 In reply to Raucous Indignation.

I agree with you completely, and that’s kind of the point of this. Unfortunately, it’s easy for many adults to label a kid that way, and it was incredibly easy for me to internalize this idea that I was inherently bad in some deep way. Getting a better understanding of what actually happened helped me to heal from that perception.

My point here is that there are no bad kids, but that the label of “bad kid” is a common one that does serious harm. In my case an information failure lead to the “bad kid” label. Any time a kid is seen as bad it’s a failure on the part of adults to correctly understand the kid.

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Comment on It Turns Out, I Wasn’t A Bad Kid by Raucous Indignation https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2018/01/10/turns-wasnt-bad-kid/#comment-969 Fri, 12 Jan 2018 20:22:13 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=787#comment-969 There’s no such thing as a “Bad Kid.”

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Comment on How Do We Support Survivors in a Sea of Triggers? by Benny Vimes https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2017/11/30/support-survivors-sea-triggers/#comment-960 Tue, 05 Dec 2017 21:35:00 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=764#comment-960 In reply to Anonymous.

I disagree with a lot of this. 12 step programs are not something I’d recommend to anyone and they can be particularly harmful to survivors of trauma. And don’t anyone dare tell me how to “move through it.” Advice, no matter how well meaning, is the last thing most survivors need from our friends and loved ones, unless we ask for it.

Listening, validating, and giving ONLY wanted advice can be helpful. And I agree with you about therapy – it’s helpful for a lot of people.

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Comment on How Do We Support Survivors in a Sea of Triggers? by Anonymous https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/2017/11/30/support-survivors-sea-triggers/#comment-959 Tue, 05 Dec 2017 02:35:22 +0000 https://the-orbit.net/scrappy/?p=764#comment-959 Twelve step programs are awesome places for survivors who need to talk about it. I talked about it for 10 years to anyone who would sit still long enough and wasn’t frightened to to hear it. After that, I no longer *need* to talk about it, and I am able to talk about it when it’s useful. Much other therapy also. Just talking will never be enough. It needs to be helpful talking. When listening, we need to validate; and we need to tell people how to move through it.

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