I agree with you completely, and that’s kind of the point of this. Unfortunately, it’s easy for many adults to label a kid that way, and it was incredibly easy for me to internalize this idea that I was inherently bad in some deep way. Getting a better understanding of what actually happened helped me to heal from that perception.

My point here is that there are no bad kids, but that the label of “bad kid” is a common one that does serious harm. In my case an information failure lead to the “bad kid” label. Any time a kid is seen as bad it’s a failure on the part of adults to correctly understand the kid.