LGBT link Roundup 10.3.14

Missouri Circuit Court Judge rules that out of state same-sex marriages must be recognized by MO!

State Circuit Court Judge J. Dale Youngs this afternoon ruled that that out-of-state same-sex marriages must be recognized by the State of Missouri. The Judge points to the Fourteenth Amendment as the basis of his ruling.

“Under the Constitutions of the United States and State of Missouri, must defendants recognize out-of-state marriages between same-sex couples that are legal in the jurisdiction in which they were contracted — just as it recognizes all other similarly valid out-of-state marriages?” Judge Youngs’ 20-page opinion reads. “The answer is yes.”

Judge Youngs was appointed by Missouri Democratic Governor Jay Nixon in 2009.

(via The New Civil Rights Movement)

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Right wingers love to rail about the dangers of marriage equality.  Often, they use the poorly constructed emotional appeal to children:  they need a two parent, man and woman, household. Without it, the downfall of civilization, of humanity even, is assured.  This shits on single parents who manage to raise healthy, happy, productive children.  It also shits on those adults who choose to get married but don’t want to have children-which is their right.  Marriage equality is important for a variety of reasons, one of which is that there are over 1,000 benefits accorded to married couples. Many of those rights would be beneficial to the children in these households (click that link ↑ if you don’t believe me).  That raises an interesting question:  How many children are being raised in LGBT households in the US? A new study by the LGBT think-tank The Williams Institute has an answer to that (via Gay Star News):

Same-sex couples were raising an estimated 200,000 children under age 18, of whom 30,000 are being raised by married same-sex parents. LGBT individuals who are not part of a couple are raising between 1.2 and 2 million children – a wide variable due to the range in estimates of adults who identify as LGBT.

Some other interesting tidbits from the study:

  • Up to 9.5 million individuals in the US, over the age of 18, are LGBT. The figure varied from state to state, between 2.2% and 4% – leading to a figure between 5.2 million and 9.5 million nationwide.
  • An estimated 4 in 10 LGB adults (40%) reported either being married or in a cohabiting relationship with a partner compared to 6 in 10 non-LGB adults (60%). This figure was higher for lesbians (51%) compared to gay men (35%).
  • In 2013, there were an estimated 690,000 same-sex couples in the US, of whom approximately 124,000 were married. When analysis was restricted to the second half of 2013, after the Supreme Court’s ruling that brought federal recognition to married same-sex couples, that figure rose to 130,000 married same-sex couples.

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The world’s largest porn site, PornHub, has released the results of a study into the porn watching habits of men and women.  Apparently women are more likely to watch two men having sex than men were.

I am confuzzled.

Maybe there’s some percentage of men watching underwater basket weaving videos rather than porn on PornHub.

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Hospitalized 9 Days, Teen Charged With Assault After 4 Anti-Gay Students Beat Him

Early last month 14-year old Eric Martin (photo, above) was bullied and beaten by at least four Highland Springs High School classmates in Henrico, Virginia.

Now, police are charging Eric with two counts of assault because he supposedly threw the first punch. School officials refuse to allow him back into school until he signs a statement saying he threatened the school — a charge he denies, and a charge for which the school has no proof.

Eric was hospitalized for nine days because of the brutal beating. Early reportsstated “Eric’s arm is possibly broken. He is suffering from a concussion, and doctors have placed him on brain rest.” He was also reportedly “on suicide watch.”

“When I try to call the school, and I try to get answers they just blow me off,” Mary Martin, Eric’s mother, told WWBT. “They don’t want to talk to me.” She says Eric has been called “gay” and a “faggot.”

Eric’s family is understandably distraught at the moment:

Dad says this is taking a toll on his family.
“I haven’t had any sleep in two days. It’s just ridiculous to go this far,” said Mr. Martin. ‘It’s bullying. It’s going too far. It’s not stopping. They are not doing enough to make it stop.”
Eric’s twin brother, Earl, is afraid to go back school.
“After what happened to my brother,” said Earl. “And after what happened in the past to other people…no. I don’t feel safe there.”
Mom is almost at her breaking point.
“And to see my mom that way,” said Earl. “It just gets to me. I think about it all the time.”
Eric is 14-years-old, and Mom says he likes to draw.
“He has been called names,” said Martin. “He has been called gay. He has been called a f——.”
The Martin family is pleading for help as Eric remains on suicide watch.
“Bullying is real,” cried Martin. “And bullying can take your children away from here if you don’t pay close attention.”
“I’ve seen it on the news,” said Mr. Martin. “Nobody does anything about it. We are speaking out asking for help to stop this. It has got to stop somewhere.”
Martin says her son could be in the hospital for another two weeks.  Henrico Police confirm they are investigating.

Let me make this as clear as I fucking can:

You don’t punish a victim of bullying who chose to defend themselves.  You punish the bullies.  It is not the fault of the victim that the bullying occurred and punishing them sends that message. This is victim blaming.  

Oh, and one more thing:


LGBT link Roundup 10.3.14