From Empathize This comes a reminder that bisexual people are often treated poorly or even erased in LGBT spaces.
This is not acceptable. I admit, with a great deal of shame, that in years past, I engaged in similar behavior. I treated bisexual people poorly. I felt they were trying to “have their cake and eat it too”. Sometimes I thought they just couldn’t make up their mind. In the last 4-5 years, I’ve come to examine many of my biases and prejudices. It hasn’t been easy, but I think I’ve become a better person for it. This doesn’t mean I’ve rid myself of every bias that I have, but I do try to engage in self-reflection and reexamine my opinions and views when challenged. So when I came to rethink my beliefs about people who are bisexual-which came when I actually listened to people who were bisexual and stopped talking over them/down to them-I realized that their lives and their experiences are valid and valuable. I realized that I can’t expect others to respect my dignity and right to exist as I choose if I don’t extend the same respect and courtesy to others. Once I realized that, I felt…well I felt pretty shitty. There is no excuse for my behavior. I can’t make up for what I’ve done in the past, but I can damn sure not repeat those actions in the future. Moreover, I can speak out about how such behavior is shitty. Bisexual people are not trying to have it both ways. They are not trying to have their cake and eat it too. They are not “undecided”. Their experiences are their own, and they are every bit as valid as mine or anyone else’s. I refuse to engage in the behavior I once did, and I ask everyone to check themselves…to examine their beliefs and biases and give thought to the harm those beliefs could bring to others.
(via Feminist Batwoman)
Two brides have become two of the most kickass women in the world by marrying to protest against homophobia in Russia.
Alina Davis, a 23-year-old trans woman, and Allison Brooks, her 19-year-old partner, donned matching white floor-length bridal gowns and married at a civil registry office earlier this month.
As Davis is still legally regarded as male, the office had no choice but to hand them a marriage certificate.
It is unfortunate that the government of Russia will not allow all consenting adults to marry regardless of gender or sexuality. I hope the day comes where this will be the case. Everyone deserves the opportunity to marry without the state dictating the terms (obviously this applies to consenting adults only). I wish the couple a long and happy life together.
Iranian Muslim women Sahar Mosleh and Maryam Iranfar married in Stockholm on 2 August during the city’s annual LGBTI pride festival – perhaps the first Iranian women to marry each other in a religious ceremony in the world, and the first in Sweden.
The couple married in a ceremony performed by Algerian born South African based Imam Ludovic-Mohamed Zahed who was in Stockholm as the festival’s nominated Imam.
Oh noes! It’s ‘ArmaGAYddon’!!!! Run for the hills! It’s the end of civilization as we know it. Not really. Unless you’re a bigot who thinks marriage equality is going to somehow be the downfall of society. Which makes me wonder what the time table is on that. Massachusetts has had same sex marriage for how long now-runs off to check…over 10 years now-and somehow their state hasn’t fallen into chaos and disarray. Maybe The Gay takes a little time to set in. Perhaps it creeps up on you little by little and before you know it BAM! You’re just like the couple in this hilarious horror movie parody:
I just realized that the commentary above could apply to the video or the story about the lesbian couple above it. That wasn’t intentional, but it was neat.