If you were watching the SkepTech hash tag on Twitter during the conference last weekend, you probably would have seen the usual suspects making the usual whine-plaints about harassment policies, and how they’re ruining all the fun at conferences. Then you would have seen some of those same whiners lose their shit over the fact that there was a whole panel about sex (HEAVENS FOREFEND), populated by feminists (FETCH MY FAINTING COUCH).
An example tweet from a pro-harassment tweeter (I mean, seriously, what else can you make of this?), believes they’ve caught us feminists, and the founders of SkepTech who supported harassment policies, out on some sort of hypocrisy:
[blackbirdpie url=”https://twitter.com/iamcuriousblue/status/322614556880949249″]
@iamcuriousblue #SkepTech policy:”Sexual language & imagery not appropriate for any conference venue, including talks.” In practice: [link to Youtube video]
The panel in question was fantastic. It was thoughtful, thorough, answered questions from the audience with aplomb, and every panelist was very obviously pro-sex. And yet, the whole panel was also very, very anti-harassment.
I strongly recommend you watch it all. And while you’re watching, have a pen and paper handy to write down all the instances of sexual language used.
And then, once you’re done, scratch out any that doesn’t involve actively mistreating someone else, present or otherwise, or otherwise treating someone as a sexual object with or without their consent, because that’s how everyone else seems to understand the term (pdf).
Once you’re done this tally and come up with the great big goose-egg that I got, then try to argue that the pro-harassment crowd is losing their shit repeatedly over anything but a phantasm. Perhaps they should keep their fears grounded in reality, and engage us on our actual arguments, our actual words, the actual effects of real harassment policies, et cetera. You know, obtain real and valid data and examine it critically.
Like skeptics do.
This is so annoying. We’ve all been in elementary school with that one kid who’s like OOOOOOOOOO YOU SAID A BAD WORD I’M GONNA TELL THE TEACHER when you, say, used “sex” to refer to gender or “dam” to refer to the Hoover Dam or “hell” because you were talking about religion. (Was I the only one who talked about religion in elementary school? Maybe.)
Protip: nobody likes that kid. You should grow up and stop being that kid.
These are the sort of folks who claimed that anti-harassment policies would require signed permission slips in order to hug your friends…
A reminder that iamcuriousblue thinks there is a communist takeover plot underway in the atheist movement:
http://www.michaelnugent.com/2013/03/26/structure-and-dedicated-website-for-the-atheist-skeptic-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-208990
and
http://www.michaelnugent.com/2013/03/26/structure-and-dedicated-website-for-the-atheist-skeptic-dialogue/comment-page-2/#comment-210082
Do ad-hominems count when they portray someone as a conspiracy theorist–especially in an ironic conspiracy theory like that with an atheist saying that about other atheists? I think they do.
Ad hominems are very significantly different from pattern recognition. “Bear this character trait in mind when dealing with this particular person” is different from “this person’s argument is wrong because he thinks X unrelated thing”.
But yeah. Iamcuriousblue ran out my personal patience for nonsense fairly quickly. If they ever try commenting again (and they haven’t, not since the thread I linked), it would take something very worth discussing before I let them through moderation. Too much noise, not enough signal.
Speaking of, they just dropped a comment in moderation linking a guest post at a blog network that’s made a cottage industry of disdaining Freethought Blogs, and I happen to think there’s hardly an argument to be made in defense of their postulate there. I read it — I don’t think it’s particularly worth linking, but it’s easily findable via Google — and I can only summarize their position that it’s both hypocrisy and censorship to make sexist remarks cost via harassment policies, while allowing discussions of sex. Take that core, then expand it across roughly a thousand words with roughly a thousand specious examples of such.
Signal to noise. You don’t has it.
So, Jason, perhaps you’d like to give your explanation as to why it was OK for Ada Initiative to censor Violet Blue’s talk in the name of the kind of policies you advocate?
Violet Blue agreed to cancel the talk herself.
Ergo, you’re wrong on the facts and therefore most of your argument.
Not to mention completely and totally off-topic here.
LOL. Why aren’t they trying to get the cops to arrest people in boxing matches and MMA bouts for assault and battery? According to their ‘argument’ they should be, ’cause there’s no such thing as context.
I’d be more impressed if IACB would actually address the point, and perhaps shed some light on why he feels it’s worth his while doing a third-rate imitation of a second-rate troll like Justin Vacula by attempting to play a ‘Gotcha!’ with respect to the policies of a conference which he didn’t even attend. However… I can see from his Twitter feed that he’s more interested in being his usual uncivil self. Last 5 tweets in re-ordered into older to newest chronological order:
iamcuriousblue @iamcuriousblue
[1.] @lousycanuck “Pro-harassment” eh? Fuck you, Jason – your misrepresentations say more about you than they do about me.
[2.] @NotungSchwert Yes, checked it out. Not just from a “Freethought blog”, but a confirmed dickhead.
[3.] @NotungSchwert Apparently because I said a mean thing to “Lord Setar” on his own blog. >
[4.] @NotungSchwert No mention of harassment *by* Setar, who I’ve seen videos of harassing opponents at demos in Vancouver.
[5.] @NotungSchwert http://atheismplus.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=413, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Jz63_lGuSE
Nice tu quoque you have going there in [4]… so are we to infer that Setàr was deserving of you dropping into his private blog to write comments there? Is that not bullying and harassment?
So, won’t post my response because you want to get the last word in? I guess I shouldn’t have expected any less of you, being the kind of person that you are – of the Freethoughblogs crowd, you’re certainly among the most petty. But, whatever, dude – if you feel that gives you some kind of power that’s sadly missing from your actual life, who am I to deny you?
So Jason, perhaps you’d like to give your explanation as to why some other people somewhere did something because of something that was probably kind of like something you approve of?
I bet they just hate it when their little “brave heroes vs. prudes” narrative gets kicked to the curb. Tee hee.
[…] been some recent conversation about sexual harassment policies/ codes of conduct at atheist/ skeptical conferences. (Yes, still. […]
It blows my mind that people are actually up in arms about harassment policies. . I’m actually so shocked that any conventions were operating without them. Everything from schools, businesses, arenas , and most events held at them, have these policies in place and have had them for a while, even if just for liability concerns. WTF are these assholes still whining about?
No IACB, I’m not approving anything about your ridiculously off-topic tangent derail attempt. Signal to noise.
I saw the post by IACB and skimmed it when it was posted, things like assertions that Rebecca Watson and Anita Sarkeesian pull out the rape threat card then produce no evidence was enough to convince me it was not worth reading. Of course things like the page-o-hate and the “game” made of Anita being beaten up was also covered by dismissive references to “the usual band of 4chan idiots” … Strange that statements this “side” of “the usual band of Slymepit idiots” ends up with howls of outrage at grouping them all in together, they are individualz!
But this post peaked my interest a little more and found the usual “reasoning” from the pit crowd…
Argumentum ad butthurt seems to always be fallacious so maybe should be a formal fallacy, if not already. Looking on the thread where the “flying monkeys” took poor IACB apart there are the usual calls from the evil Greta to be more civil and not out and out insult IACB. Extremely amusing is that “troll” was mentioned by IACB and in fact used by him to try and shut up Emburii and Julian by calling *them* trolls. No one called IACB a troll! Emburii asked politely for an apology for being called one by IACB in that thread, didn’t see it though.
The bit about being “right on the money” is bizarre. So his contention that having harassment policies that prohibit sexual objectification will prudify the conference and exclude pro-sex worker and sex positive feminists was shown to be false. There was a successful panel on sex, but because that doesn’t fit his limited interpretation of the policy this is somehow “proving” him right. About what? The waffle that follows this statement is not even applicable…
IACB managed to get himself stuck in moderation on a number of FtB blogs by making accusations about things FtB bloggers and commenters were supposedly saying about harassment policies, then failing to give any examples when asked. Anyone surprised that his answer when challenged on the content of this panel is to point somewhere else?
Also, there is an interesting conversation to be had about the Violet Blue talk and the ways that the abuse of sex as a means to exclude (generally) women from the public sphere affects our ability to talk out the issues around sex that we should talk out. I don’t believe IACB is capable of having that discussion in any sort of adult way, however.
Not here though Stephanie — nattering nabobs are already hitting my moderation wall demanding the right to hash through the finer points of the Violet Blue talk. Either way, even if it’s tangentially related to the topic as a whole, it’s decidedly off-topic here, a derail attempt by IACB that will not happen as long as I’m watching.
That’s not to say there won’t be a post about it later though.
Is there a transcript of that panel somewhere? I’m finding the sound unusually difficult to follow for some reason.
Oh, goodness, no. Not here. It isn’t a discussion you can have without trust or while people are treating the subject like a political football.
There seems to be a chunk of the talk missing in there at the 5 minute mark. It jumps from greta starting to make a point about pre-internet personal ads, to Miri finishing something about lying.
Excellent talk though. 🙂
Google’s automatic closed-captioning… won’t help with that.
Greta 9:40:
lawrence’s sex / uh… best / but also very heady hustle
Stephanie 29:25:
prepared formica enemies six inches long disinterest inscribed
I think it would be interesting to do an exercise–maybe as part of Nugent’s dialogue?–where we ask them to make our argument, and we make theirs.
I think we could make theirs with our hands tied behind our backs. And I don’t think they could make ours. I don’t. They haven’t been listening carefully enough to “get” what we’re saying.
Of course I could be wrong.
Someone evidently told Violet Blue to correct me. She has tweeted at me thusly:
a) I said she “agreed to cancel the talk”, which could very well just mean she assented to being squashed. I’ll accept the clarification but it doesn’t change how I said what I said, unless she fought to have her talk against the wishes of the Ada Initiative.
b) Still completely off topic here. Completely unsure how or why her talk is at all relevant to the fact that people think talk about sex is sexual language or imagery. Is it because the word “sexual” is being intentionally deprived of context and interpreted by people who really want feminism to be about being anti-sex?
No, I will not publish anyone speculating on the Violet Blue / Ada Initiative matter here. It is IRRELEVENT.
If you want to be published, answer the core of this post. I want to know why people don’t recognize “sexual language and imagery” as being, say, telling others to suck your cock, or that they’re only good for being fucked, or photoshopping them into porn pictures, for instance.
According to the Ada Initiative:
Whatever. Don’t see how that disagreement is relevant here.
Dammit. Still off-topic. :/
I posted a comment raising several issues, including interpretation of “sexual language and imagery”. If it’s still there, please consider publishing it and deleting this one.
Otherwise, I would like to repeat that the authors of the policy in question note that it includes a blanket ban on sexual content in talks and other parts of the conference and provide an optional addendum to allow exceptions.
As this addendum is not currently being used by SkepTech, the panel in question was clearly in violation of their anti-harassment policy.
http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Conference_anti-harassment/Policy
http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Conference_anti-harassment/Example_exception_to_policy
Transcript: SkepTech Panel – Sex in Cyberspace: Porn, Ok Cupid, and the Internet
Niiiice. Did you do that, CA? Can I post it here, rather than at Pastebin?
It’s still in moderation, k, because it spirals out into a dozen and a half other topics and derails that I recognize will turn this comment thread into a battleground on topics that are not this post’s topic. I will have an answer to THIS POST, dammit. Just one of you will actually answer the question raised.
The only reason I approved this one, k, is because you came close. However, where your point fails is that you still have to assume that “sexual language” == “talk about sex”, rather than “mistreating someone by objectifying them or slurring them”.
Why do I have a funny feeling this assertion is never going to get explained in any straightforward way? It would just fly in the face of all of the other assertions of “feminism == anti-sex” and “harassment policy == no fun ever”.
And frankly, those assertions coming from people who don’t make it a point to attend these events (even the free ones) with their evil “harassment policies” to see how evil and no fun they are all come off sounding like choking on sour grapes.
@Jason Thibeault #29:
Yep.
There were a few “???” places I couldn’t make out. Nothing major.
Sure.
They’re also apparently trying to say we’re bad or not feminist because of anti-sex work ‘feminists’. It’s all just to try and make us look bad, and get people to oppose us. end of story =/
Aratina #3:
Can we just fucking acknowledge that libertarianism is a red flag for shitty behaviour and say bye to the libertarians already?
Because, in general and in the world at large, that’s not what the terms mean. If you are browsing through, say, movies or video games and the rating system says that it contains “sexual language and imagery”, surely you don’t expect it to contain that necessarily, as opposed to there being language that talks about sex and/or images of a sexual nature (male or female, since that’s how the rating systems work). So outside of feminist analysis, sexual language and imagery really just means images and language that references sex. So arguing that sexual language and imagery really just means the objectifying or “bad” stuff seems like using a private definition and then wondering why no one else understands what you mean when it’s so clear by your own private definition.
Even your own source has hints of this, because it has this quote:
Even though the examples in the rest of the article tend towards the worse cases, there isn’t really a clear statement that sexual language doesn’t include simply talking about sex, while that quote seems to argue that even talking about sex can be a problem due to social factors.
Alright, have a few more quotes from one of the authors of this policy as to why any and all discussion of sex is problematic:
http://adainitiative.org/2013/02/keeping-it-on-topic-the-problem-with-discussing-sex-at-technical-conferences/
This paragraph makes it quite clear that the anti-harassment policy they wrote is intended as a blanket ban on the discussion of sex, with optional guidelines for how to allow discussion of sex in a woman-friendly way when it is necessary and on-topic. SkepTech uses the former, but not the latter.
Their reasoning looks like this:
The idea that having a harassment policy is somehow wrong is ludicrous. Complaining about the wording of the policy is legitimate. I get nervous when someone says everyone knows what that means. How many lawsuits over contracts have happened over the years because all of the parties involved believed that everyone knows what that clause meant but in reality, they had very different ideas what it meant? Overly vague policies can be misused or misapplied. There is no indication that this has happened but if there is a potential problem it is better to fix it beforehand.
@30: “Sexual language” is an extremely poor choice of words. “Sexualizing language” would make the intent much clearer and head-off the swarm of disingenuous, context-blind concern trolls. The problem with sexual harassment isn’t so much that sex is a matter of discussion, but that it’s harassing because it non-consensually sexualizes another person. It’s a good idea, when crafting impact-based or impact-focused policies, like harassment policies (harassment is bad because it causes harm, so the focus is on the impact, and can be summarized more or less as “don’t do things that harm others”), to use language that reflects how the problematic behaviors function instead of language that addresses an abstracted, decontextualized characteristic of the problematic behavior.
That said, one must be willfully ignorant to to miss the point that a harassment policy is specifically addressing harassment, and any behaviors that are experienced as harassing by exactly no one really fall outside the scope of the policy.
Agreed. “Sexual language” is a bad choice of words there. They should have been more specific, or adopted the addendum.
Good thing harassment policies can be modified in order to make them clearer and more in line with what they’re actually designed to do–which is to discourage unwanted, demeaning sexual attention, not demonize human sexuality or forbid any mention of sex.
It’s interesting to see this comment chain develop. The Ada Initiatives’ feminism literature speaks at length about those who use (usually unknown to them) privilege to deny others a voice, and it’s rather interesting to see quite a bit of that going on here.
I think perhaps you have a good point in here somewhere, but you’ve couched it in language which seeks to subjugate those who disagree with you. That seems somewhat counterproductive. You’re not likely to show anyone the beautiful sunny meadow of feminism if you continuously frame everyone who disagrees with you (or more optimistically, doesn’t yet agree with you) as the enemy. Do think carefully about what you say, before you say it. It would be better to have silence than unthoughtful reactionary word vomit.
Behavioral Economics has some interesting things to say about contracts. Regulations like the Sexual Harrasment policies are to be interpret by the “spirit of the law” or the “letter of the law”. This distinction is what drives so many that feel strongly, one way or the other, to these kinds of arguments.
So wait. When this post is titled “spot the sexual language”, what is really meant is “spot the nasty anti woman language”?
Perhaps that’s what you should title it in the future? I mean it completely ruins the pretense for this post, but… looks like the video you reference has a point, and you’re adrift in a sea of hypocrisy.
They can be, but… I don’t think this one is going to be. If it was, then this post would be basically saying “oh yeah, this was a very poorly worded policy statement, it should be changed for next time”. But that’s not the message being sent here. This is all about tribal loyalty and submission to the power structure.
So the actual wording of the harassment policy is irrelevant. All that matters is that we accept that it’s supposed to mean certain pure concepts, and if it clearly forbids certain behaviors that are so clearly innocent that the organizers sanction it then it’s all okay and to attempt to criticize it denotes someone as an odious “MRA” who must have scorn heaped upon him?
No. “Spot the sexual language” means “spot the language that violates the spirit of the harassment policy.” I’ll accept that a better wording would be “sexualizing language”, but guess what? Many laws still understand “sexual language” in exactly the sense meant by the harassment policy.
In this way, there is absolutely no hypocrisy in pointing out that nobody is slandered or targeted or objectified or harassed by the language used, despite this “sea” of discussion about sex.
As I said on Twitter, the existence of an anti-harassment policy at American Atheists’ Convention 2013 in no way impeded the knocking of boots, nor rampant jokes about butts and sex and buttsex.
Hypothetical situation: I am hosting a convention in which the harassment policy forbids any and all physical contact, because of the potential for such contact to harm others. However one of the official panels at the convention involves a group of people meeting together and giving each other high fives for some inexplicable reason. Someone points out that I should modify the harassment policy because it clearly forbids something that I’m officially sanctioning, and if I can’t abide by my own policy how can I expect others to.
I lash out at them, calling them pro manslaughter advocates and insist that they point out where on that high five panel anybody was knifed repeatedly. The spirit of the policy, I insist, was clearly to prevent grievous bodily harm to the attendees. The fact that it’s worded so loosely as to forbid a wide range of entirely socially acceptable behaviors is irrelevant. What matters is that when I say physical contact, what I mean is beating someone up or killing them.
In that hypothetical situation, who exactly is losing their shit?
May I point out instead where your hypothetical breaks down, Nomad? Because it breaks down rather quickly when compared to the actual — and I know hypotheticals are not identicals, but they should damn well be close enough to serve as an example of what you’re trying to say.
Let’s say we’re actually talking about a convention where harassment policies forbid any physical contact under any circumstances. Let’s say one of the panels talks about rugby. Would they be hypocrites for talking about rugby, which involves physical contact?
Let’s say, instead, that the policy forbids specifically punching. Is talking about hugging in contradiction of this policy, because hugging and punching are both physical actions?
If you want to argue that the wording should be such that people reading it under “commonsensical” definitions instead of actually looking at the legal ones understand what’s allowed and what’s forbidden, either different wordings or added example behaviours that are frowned upon might help clarify the spirit of the policy. When the spirit of the policy is to prevent people from, say, calling one another sluts or whores, to stop them from showing photos of one another in pornographic positions, or telling one another to kiss some area of their various genitalia, without their consent… talking about sex (during which some part of those scenarios might actually play out for real in a consentual situation) is not violating either the spirit or the letter of the policies.
You’re right that if this policy forbade any talk about sex, it would be hypocritical of the organizers to host a panel (well-advertised in advance!) on sex. But since that’s not what the policy forbade, how about you stop complaining that people forbade physical contact and there was a panel with high-fives, when the policy actually forbade stabbings.
I think axelblaster @40 has it exactly right. The people losing their shit over this “hypocrisy” are misinterpreting the letter of the law because they’re trying to read “sexual language” as “language related to sex”. Perhaps that request for clarification instead of all this ridiculous hyperbole might have helped refine the harassment policy so people who want to play rules-lawyer (or rather, people who’d rather there be no rules at all *coughlibertarianscough*) stop spinning their wheels and generating so much internecine acrimony on these perfectly sensible precautions for public events.
These are the sort of folks who claimed that anti-harassment policies would require signed permission slips in order to hug your friends…
OMG. I asked for (and got!) a very nice hug from JT – a complete stranger until several minutes before. Did I harrass him? O NOES!
Thanks for the transcript, Sky Captain!