I find I’m a lot more attracted to East Asians (from China/Japan/Koreas/Vietnam/Thai/etc.) than I am to other races. I have no control over this. And it’s not like I don’t find other races attractive, just less attractive. Does that make me racist?
There is something racist here, but it’s not the fact that this person finds themselves attracted to people they perceive to be of a certain race.
This question rests on two premises.
- “East Asian” is a meaningful term when describing people to whom you are attracted.
- Non-platonic attraction is something that is innate and immutable.
The truth behind the second premise is much more complicated than many would like to admit, and a topic for another post. The first premise, however, is intriguing in what it implies: that there is at least one trait shared by all people of their preferred gender of certain East Asian ethnicities that cannot be found in people of their preferred gender who aren’t of those ethnicities. There is no logical way that is true.
What is more likely is that the question-asker is stereotyping East Asians in some way. While certain types of stereotyping might seem “positive”, they are still negative because they have the potential to harm individuals in the stereotyped group who don’t live up to them.
It is also likely (although I wouldn’t want to assume the worst) that those stereotypes are related to horrifically racist and sexist Orientalist notions of The East.
So no, merely being attracted to mostly people of a certain race or other isn’t necessarily racist. However, saying “I like [race] more than other races” carries racist assumptions and cultural baggage.
Update 1/8: The anon asker has this to add. I don’t think the discussion has to be just about their preferences, though. It’s obviously a wider issue.
I left out my gender and the gender of those I’m attracted to on purpose. I noticed I and my attractions became gendered both in your post and in your comments despite this, although I also noticed you removed the gendering from your post at a later time. I’m still going to leave out my own gender, but I will say that my sexuality is pansexual, and that my attraction applies to all genders who have those “East Asian” features I meant to allude to. (I’ll get back to discussing that particular phrase later.) I find femininity more attractive than masculinity, but that’s not really dependent upon the gender of the person.
I was talking about physical attraction when I wrote my question to you. For whatever reason, I left that out, and I don’t know why. I noticed there was a lot of talk about stereotypes of submissive women and whatnot, and that wasn’t really part of my question. I don’t find submission to be an attractive trait. I’m kind of opposite the commenter “samgardner(9)”, who says it’s less about physical appearance and more about personalities. I’m perfectly aware that “East Asian” people are just as diverse as any person of any other race.
Is the term “East Asian” meaningful? I only put it there because the ethnicities to whom I find myself the most attracted to happen to all be “from” eastern Asia. If it has any meaning beyond that, I don’t know.
I think this was alluded to in your comment section, but it’s wrong to say that I think there’s at least one trait shared by *ALL* people of East Asian ethnicities. I do not think so. However, there clearly has to be something, I assume one or more traits, shared by many or even most East Asians, at least comparatively so than other ethnicities.
“Bill Dauphin, avec fromage(13)” is onto something when he says it’s a combination of traits that does the trick for me, in terms of attraction. And while you certainly can find people who have many of the same traits in other races, they appear with much higher frequency in “East Asian” people than they do in other races. I know for a fact, based on my own research into my attraction, than neotenous features (or cuteness) has a much greater effect on me than “beauty” does (at least, the way beauty is defined in western culture).