Comments on: Polyamory: What No One Warned Me About https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/ Here to disrupt your narrative. Mon, 29 May 2017 16:01:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.6 By: Nowhere to Hide: How "It's Complicated" Makes Everything Very Simple - Poly.Land https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-9332 Mon, 29 May 2017 16:01:31 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-9332 […] recently stumbled across a piece by Heina Dadabhoy called “Polyamory: What No One Warned Me About.” As Dadabhoy […]

]]> By: Blessing an Atheist Isn’t Nice, It’s Passive-Agressive https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4770 Mon, 11 May 2015 19:03:27 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4770 […] for instance, Christians who tell my polyamorous, queer2 ass to “Have a blessed […]

]]> By: A Note: Hiatus https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4769 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:03:45 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4769 […] Polyamory: What No One Warned Me About […]

]]> By: Why Insist That Polyamory Is Not for You? https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4768 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 18:03:23 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4768 […] so on, I do my darndest to keep it personal. That is exactly what I tried to do when I wrote about my own feelings surrounding poly breakups. As always when I mention my relationship style, however, I received responses to the effect of […]

]]> By: Another way poly is hard. – PolyNormal https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4767 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 00:51:09 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4767 […] is open and out about being poly on her Facebook… *frustrated sigh*) posted an article: Polyamory: What No One Warned Me About. In it she discusses how in a monogamous relationship, when there’s a breakup, you have a lot […]

]]> By: Yellow Thursday https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4766 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 22:02:16 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4766 My husband and I were monogamous for 15 years before deciding to open up our relationship. I thought it was going to be great for us, but when he tried to coerce me into a closed relationship with another couple, I left him (and the other couple). In our case, it was a mismatched idea of what it meant to be poly along with his insecurities and control issues.

I’m still poly, and I have the freedom now to explore relationships that never would have been possible before.

]]> By: researchtobedone https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4765 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 19:39:46 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4765 This is an interesting perspective, because I find in some ways that it has the opposite effect for me. When I get broken up with as a poly person, I find it easier to take it less personally because I don’t get to react with “Well, that other person is just better than me.”

When it’s about just me, and not about someone else being chosen over me, it’s easier for me to feel like something just happened not to work, rather than that someone else (and by extension EVERYONE EVER OF COURSE) was “better” than me.

]]> By: Blade Stevens https://the-orbit.net/heinous/2014/11/18/dumped/#comment-4764 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 19:38:46 +0000 http://freethoughtblogs.com/heinous/?p=49318#comment-4764 This was lovely–and thank you for sharing!

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