This post assumes cis- and hetero- normativity because, in the context of the Abrahamic religions, gender and orientation variance from the cis-het norm isn’t exactly a topic that is heavily covered by the canon.
I swear, this wasn’t my fault or my idea.
Via ask.fm, a video and a question.
did Muslim girls have this idea too?
In case you haven’t seen it yet but don’t want to watch the video (which is inexplicable as Garfunkel and Oates are hilarious), The Loophole is a humorous take on the real-life phenomenon of certain purity-pledging, vaginal-virginity-obsessed Christians having anal sex as a way to avoid tampering with the mythical hymen. The question-asker is wondering if Muslims also have anal sex as a way of avoiding premarital vaginal sex.
In a word: no. But there is another phenomenon regarding anal sex that I uncovered in my research for my talk on LGBT people in the Muslim world.
Anal isn’t exactly something that is allowed in Islam in the first place. Even for married Muslims, anal sex is considered haraam by the staggering majority of scholars. It’s considered makrooh (not forbidden but highly frowned upon) by only a minority of religious authorities within a minority sect of Islam, at best.
When it comes to literal, traditional, practicing Muslims, there is no loophole in terms of the prohibition on premarital romantic activity. Not only is premarital sex not permissible, but things like holding hands, kissing, and being alone without a chaperone are also forbidden. As per Muhammad, “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third.” As such, dating is not really an option for many Muslims; without the privacy afforded by unchaperoned dating, there isn’t exactly any opportunity for people to have any kind of sex, let alone anal.
Of course, like young people in any culture, many Muslims sneak around and break the rules. However, since they are already violating the rules by dating at all, there doesn’t seem to be a pervasive or common Christian-esque fixation on anal sex between men and women as a way to preserve vaginal virginity. I do know that many of them will avoid vaginal intercourse by engaging in activities like frottage and oral sex.
In at least one heavily-Muslim country, anal sex is a topic of fixation — not between men and women as an alleged “virginity” preserver, but between older men and younger boys. Among male Moroccans, receiving anal sex is considered to be acceptable until about age 15 or 16, after which they are supposed to stop lest they become addicted. In other words, receiving anal is considered to be undesirable because it is seen as so pleasurable that it might render a man less likely to engage in penetrative vaginal sex.
The more you know [slightly flashing gif warning]