I’m starting a new series on my blog today: Changing My Mind.
I often change my mind about stuff based on comments and comment threads in this blog. It’s one of the main reasons I blog, actually. One of my blog’s mottos is “Thinking out loud since 2005,” and one of the best reasons to think out loud is that, when you think out loud instead of just inside your own head, people who know things you don’t can correct you if you’re mistaken. So I’ve decided that, when this happens, I’m going to start saying so in the blog. I think it’s good practice for the discipline of skepticism. Being willing to admit that we’re wrong is how we become more right. We shouldn’t be embarrassed to admit in public that we’re wrong. On the contrary — we should be proud of it.
So, okay, the topic on which I’m changing my mind today is perhaps not the most earth-shattering one on the planet. But it’s what I was thinking about when I decided to start this series, so I’m just going to go with it:
It is not necessarily easier to find shoes that fit than it is to find clothes that fit.
In my recent post, Fashion Friday: Why Shoes?, I meditated on why so many women who care about fashion and style are so fascinated by shoes. And one of the ideas I threw out there was this:
It’s relatively easy to find shoes that fit. Yes, there are some women with very small or very large feet who have a hard time finding shoes. But it pales in comparison with the number of women who have a hard time finding clothes that fit. If you’re interested in fashion and style and want to express yourself through your appearance, and you’re fatter than average, or thinner than average, or taller, or shorter, or bustier, or more flat-chested… finding clothes that fit can be a hassle at best, a frustrating nightmare that can drive you to tears at worst. But chances are excellent that you’ll be able to find shoes that fit. So just about everyone can get into them, and have fun with them. (This is especially true for fat women: cool shoes are many a stylish fat woman’s best friend.)
As far as I knew, this was true. I’ve never had great trouble finding shoes that fit, and I haven’t personally known a lot of other women who have. And I’ve known lots and lots and lots of women — including myself — who have had a terrible time finding clothes that fit. But many women responded to this post with tales of how difficult it is for them to find shoes that fit. Apparently, that’s more common than I knew.
So I’m amending this. I don’t know whether it’s easier to find shoes that fit than it is to find clothes that fit. It may be; it may not be. I don’t know which is a more common problem. So here’s what I now am saying instead. Instead of saying, “It’s easier to find shoes that fit than to find clothes that fit,” I’m going to say, “It’s easier for many women to find shoes that fit than to find clothes that fit. Lots of women have a difficult, frustrating time finding clothes that fit — especially women with body shapes and sizes that fall outside the social expectations of what women are supposed to look like. But for many of these women, shoe shopping is relatively easy — and for those women, if they’re interested in fashion and style and want to express themselves through their appearance, shoes can be a good way to do that.”
Am looking forward to changing my mind again!