Comments on: Bisexuality Visibility Day

By: One Year | Reasonable Conversation

One Year | Reasonable Conversation — Sat, 29 Sep 2012 17:01:46 +0000

[…] I said it. There was a lot of buildup, but what tipped me over the edge was a post about Bisexuality Visibility Day on Greta Christina’s blog. I hope one day I might thank her in person for writing that and creating a community of readers […]

By: Torie

Torie — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 20:46:58 +0000

This post is awesome! I’m a bi woman in a relationship with a guy, and if I want any bisexual visibility whatsoever I have to literally bring it up, point it out to people, wear a bi pride shirt, go to pride events, etc.
To some people, it might not matter if people know they’re bi. That’s fine, but to me, it matters. Don’t call me straight; I’m not straight. Don’t call me gay either. I’m not gay. But almost any monogamous bi person occupies an awkward place of near invisibility. Openly poly people probably have an easier time (though I’m not poly, so I can’t say for sure).

By: Ed

Ed — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 02:20:36 +0000

I think being bisexual has a lot to do with what goes on inside your head, more than just who’s in your bed. I’m bisexual, and though I am married to a straight woman who knows I’m bi, I have chosen to be monogamous. It was a choice I made. It wasn’t an easy one (in some ways), and yet, in order to have my wife remain in my life, that was a choice I knew I had to make. I don’t regret that in the slighest! Choose one thing and you often choose against something else. Life’s like that sometimes.

I’m still as bisexual as before (inside my head it’s very interesting sometimes)! I see guys sometimes that really turn my head, and I love that feeling. Why shouldn’t I? It’s only natural! It doesn’t mean I don’t love my wife. It just means that I’m “queer!”

Fortunately for me, my wife accepts all this! I show her the same respect. You do that for those you care about.

Edgerman58

By: Melody

Melody — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:35:44 +0000

I can relate to Musical Atheist’s feelings and experiences, although I am monogamous and married to a man.

By: Musical Atheist

Musical Atheist — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 13:27:16 +0000

I’ve identified as bisexual since I was 15 or 16 – I’m 29 now. I’m in a long-term, occasionally non-monogamous relationship with a man. But does anyone else have the following problem?

Since I’ve been in a stable relationship with a man for the last 6 years, I feel kind of like I no longer have the right to be part of queer culture. I loved going to gay bars and clubs with my female lovers, and feeling at home, knowing that my girlfriend and I weren’t a spectacle. Now in a straight relationship, I feel a bit self-conscious and unjustified going to the same places, especially with my partner, even though I’m still attracted to women.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 23:00:33 +0000

Bi-sexual here too, I can very much identify with the blog entry, I make the same thought-errors myself quite often.

As an interesting aside, I have 4 siblings, 3 are straight and 1 is gay, I also have 2 (ex-Fundy, these days a bit more progressive) Christian parents. While my parents don’t agree with my gay-sibling’s sexual orientation, they deal with it. They find mine a little harder to grasp as they don’t understand the whole choice vs ‘born that way’ situation, my Dad just outright doesn’t accept that bisexuality exists. Thankfully I have an excellent relationship with them regardless!

By: Soccerlvr

Soccerlvr — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 22:22:42 +0000

I just discovered this blog through Pharyngula. I’ve recently come to terms with my bi-sexuality and atheism and there is no one I feel I can come out to anytime soon. I’m a woman happily married to a wonderful man, but I just don’t think he’s ready for either news.
I think being raised in a very strict Christian home, I suppressed my sexuality until now (I’m 28). I’m grateful for this blog, blogpost, and everyone who has shared their experiences. I don’t feel quite so alone.

By: Nentuaby

Nentuaby — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 22:15:54 +0000

DaisiesAndShit, Katherine Lorraine:

Hurm, you raise a point for me. I’m pansexual but say bi by default, because the gain in accuracy doesn’t seem to be worth the extra work of explaining gender theory 101 to everyone I come out with. I really should have used my proper identification here, but there I am up there just saying bi… Guess I’ve let the habit become too ingrained.

By: DFS

DFS — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 20:17:38 +0000

I’m male and have been exclusively gay for the past 15+ years though I do have some bi-curiosity. Visible Male bisexuality is virtually nonexistent. Female bisexuality is viewed far more as “normal” and expected.(even reflected by comments here)

I have yet to find an outlet for my curiosity in a setting where I don’t have to be dishonest

By: ringo

ringo — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 20:01:57 +0000

What Katherine Lorraine said, I agree with every word.
Though I’m FTM.