Getting In The Mood

Please note: The post that this links to includes references to my personal sex life. Nothing too explicit or specific — but family members and others who don’t want to read about that may want to skip this one.

In the mood
I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It’s about getting in the mood for sex — with a particular emphasis on couples who schedule and make dates for sex, and on specific, practical strategies for getting your mind off of work, errands, etc… and into the gutter where it belongs.

It’s titled Getting In The Mood, and here’s the teaser:

I’ve written before, many times, in lavish praise of scheduling sex. I’ve written about how scheduling sex can be one of the best ways to keep sex alive and lively for people who are getting older, people who have been together a long time, people who are just plain busy and overscheduled. I’ve written about the myth that being swept away by passion (as opposed to consciously making room for sex in your life) is inherently the best kind of sex… and how this myth reinforces the idea that sex is dirty and bad and the only valid excuse for it is that you were overcome by passion. And I’ve written about how you don’t need to be in the mood to have sex when you start having it: you just need to be willing to get into the mood.

All very well and good.

But how do you get there?

How do you get from A to B? If you’ve made a plan to have sex on Sunday afternoon, and Sunday afternoon rolls around and neither of you is feeling it… how do you get yourself feeling it?

How — specifically, practically, strategically — do you get in the mood?

To find out more — and to share your own strategies — read the rest of the piece. (And if you’re inspired to comment here, please consider cross-posting your comment to the Blowfish Blog: they like comments there, too.) Enjoy!

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Getting In The Mood
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One thought on “Getting In The Mood

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    Yup, all great suggestions, Greta, as usual.
    Ernest and I always make sex dates, or we’d never be in the same mood at the same time. We’re older, very busy, etc.
    As you say, we decide to get in the mood and then take it from there. I set up the space, he pours me a drink and picks out some smut, we dress up and then sit down and begin the process. Works every time because we agree to do it.
    And we’re never sorry we did!

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