Note to family members and others who don’t want to read about my personal sex life: This one you almost certainly want to stay away from. It discusses my sex life in some detail… and discusses aspects of my sex life that you probably don’t want to know about. Really. Here’s a recent post that you might want to read instead, about why I think the “nature, nurture, or both” debate about sexual orientation needs to be based, not on what answer we would like to be true, but on what answer is best supported by evidence.
Buying Obedience:
My Visit to a Pro Submissive
Part Three: Doing It
But Rachel, of course, was a professional. She knew how to put nervous horny people at ease, and she knew what to do next. She graciously took my money, and she sat me on the sofa and chatted a bit about what we’d be doing, and she walked me around the dungeon showing me her toys… and while part of me was watching the clock tick and wondering, “Am I paying for this?”, a much larger part was relieved to have the chance to get my bearings. I was getting a sense of the physical space, which was helping me relax and settle in… and which was giving me ideas.
And of course, now I knew what Rachel looked like. Yes, I’d seen photos on her Website, but we all know about photos. They can lie in so many ways, not least of which is the lies you tell yourself when you look at them. But while Rachel didn’t look exactly the way I’d imagined — she was taller, and dressed more conventionally — I certainly wasn’t disappointed. If anything, her photos didn’t do her justice. So by the time the tour was over, I was… not relaxed exactly, but no longer paralyzed. And while I was still deeply weirded out, I was also getting a little turned on.
Continued after the jump. Please note: This post includes explicit descriptions of sexual acts. If you’re under 18, please do not continue reading.
So I was watching this pretty, sexy, obedient woman bend over with her skirt hiked up and her panties pulled down, when it occurred to me that it might be fun to go squeeze her butt. Immediately I thought, “No. Not yet. You were going to wait for that.” (I wasn’t kidding about blocking out the session beforehand. In my hyper-anxious state, I’d been worried that if I didn’t, I’d get lost in the preliminaries and wouldn’t have time for the main events.)
But then it dawned on me: “Screw that. This is for you. The whole idea is that this is for you. She’s a submissive: she’s here to do what you want, when you want it. So to hell with your stupid timeline. If your clit wants you to squeeze her ass, then go squeeze her ass.” (I guess my “This is for you” mantra had sunk in after all.) I walked over behind her, let my hand hover above her bare ass for a moment, and touched her.
I began to take things a little further. I made Rachel show me her breasts, and then groped them. I made her crawl on the floor, and then followed her around groping her ass while she crawled. I switched back and forth between touching her and watching her: between using her for the pleasure of my hands and using her for the pleasure of my eyes, between treating her like a sex toy and treating her like a piece of pornography.
But being sexually selfish turned out to be much harder than I’d anticipated. I hadn’t quite realized this before, but apparently a lot of what I get off on as a top is feedback: the admiration of my wonderful skill and sensitivity and general toppy hotness. It was extremely difficult to not care about whether Rachel thought I was hot. And even though I was playing the whole “distant and cool” thing as a sexual game, I think I was also doing it as a defense. I knew that no matter how Rachel was responding to me, I’d be wondering if it was real or an act she was getting paid to put on. Playing the “this is all about me” game meant I didn’t have to think about that question.
It was still hard, though. And it got harder as the scene got more physical. When I took Rachel over my knee and started spanking her, I had to remind myself of our email negotiations, and the fact that she’d made a point of telling me, several times, that I should feel free to spank her. I knew in my head that she was okay with being spanked. She’d shown me a whole cabinet of paddles and crops and floggers I could use on her, of course she was okay with being spanked. In fact, it sounded from her emails like she was a lot more than okay with being spanked. But paying somebody to let me physically hurt them still took some adjustment.
And even when I was getting into the selfishness game, part of what I selfishly wanted was a certain kind of response. It took me an embarrassingly long time to figure out that I could ask for that as well. I could order her to wriggle or be still when I spanked her, to moan or be quiet, to beg me to stop or to beg for more. But once I let go of my worry over whether she was faking, I realized how much pleasure I found in telling her how to react. It was an unsettling pleasure, but an intense one: the power I felt in controlling, not just her behavior, but her response to mine.
But it was still hard. Which is probably why I did what I did at the end of the session. I was pretty much done — to be crude about it, I’d finished coming — and I said to Rachel, “You’ve been very good. I’ve enjoyed this very much, and I want to give you a reward. Is there something you want before we finish? Something you want to do, or want me to do?”
“Honestly?” she asked. Her voice wasn’t submissive or meek this time: it was straightforward and firm, and she didn’t pause for even a second before asking.
“Yes.”
She didn’t hesitate. “I want to be spanked some more.”
I smiled. “Do you like it hard?”
“Yes,” she answered immediately, almost interrupting. “I like to be spanked hard.”
I was so glad I’d asked. I had hoped that would be her answer. Her obvious enthusiasm relieved any residual guilt I had about the whole “selfishly hurting you and using you for my own erotic whims” thing. Besides, I really just wanted to spank her some more. I bent her over my lap again and started spanking, ordering her to beg me for it, to tell me how badly she wanted it. When I started worrying if I was doing it too hard, I reminded myself that this was what she’d specifically asked for, the thing she wanted more than anything, and I bucked up my courage and spanked her even harder. I kept it up, solid and relentless, until our time was almost up.
Then I ordered her onto the floor, on her back with her legs apart and her fingers spreading her cunt. I watched her silently for a minute, trying to fix the image in my brain. And I said, “That’s it. We’re done.”
Now, this is going to make me sound like a complete asshole, but an honest answer would have been “No.” I didn’t want to cuddle. I didn’t even want to chat. I was feeling anxious and freaked-out, and what I wanted was to give her my tip, say “Thank you,” and get the hell out of there. But the scene was over: she wasn’t my submissive servant anymore, we were social equals again, and after everything we’d been doing, saying “No” seemed churlish and rude. So I said “Sure,” and put my arm around her stiffly while we chatted about the scene. I took off as soon as I gracefully could, and headed back to BART, thinking: Boy, sex work is weird.
(Finally succumbed and added your feed to my reader on a whim, and this is what I get first. Certainly not disappointed.)
I have to say, it occurs to me that Rachel’s request at the end (to cuddle) might have been just what you were fantasizing about previously, with her pushing the limits for you. It’s a bit hard to say though. She could have just needed anyone for support after a sexual experience like that, or she could have felt something for you personally.
Then again, you might have already gone through this analysis yourself. I’ll have to wait to read the next part and see.
I don’t actually address the cuddling question in the conclusion, Infophile. So I’ll try to answer it here.
Rachel had actually said at the beginning of the session, when she was showing me around and chatting with me, that she often liked to cuddle after a session was over. So I don’t think it had anything to do with me particularly. I think it’s more likely that she just had a need to cuddle after a submissive session, regardless of who it was with.
Interesting question. Thanks for asking!
Wow, fantastically hot story!!!
For myself, I still think I’d get off more on getting paid for it than paying for it. The desire itself is my favorite treat, so if the other person isn’t dying for it and begging for it, then I’ll be yawning as well. But it’s like you always say — a well-written scene can be hot even if it’s not your kink. 😀
Yet, perversely, I feel like I wouldn’t have any problem playing the selfish, objectifying role (without even requiring the “you’re doing great and getting me off” feedback). If only I weren’t happily married an monogamous, I could explore my career options as a pro dom… 😉