Pain, Connection, and Being Here Now: The Blowfish Blog

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Every now and then, it occurs to me that getting off on physical pain is a little bit odd. Every once in a while, I have to stop taking it for granted and re-examine what exactly the hell that’s all about. I do that in my latest piece for the Blowfish Blog, Pain, Connection, and Being Here Now. It begins thus:

Why does pain feel good?

Why, for some people, under some conditions, do certain kinds of stimuli that my body would normally process as unpleasant get processed as pleasant instead? Not just pleasant, but hot and dirty and intensely desirable?

I’ve been a practicing masochist (and sadist) for so long that I sometimes forget what an odd thing this is. Pain is pretty much by definition the body saying No. Why is it that in certain conditions, with certain kinds of pain, my body says Yes instead?

Not just Yes, but More, Harder, Please Don’t Stop?

And I am talking about pain. Not “intense sensation.” Sometimes I’ll experience a mild spanking or a sweet flogging as more like a massage or something. But that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about P-A-I-N Pain, the kind of pain that my body is screaming No to at the exact moment it’s screaming Yes.

It’s a little odd. What is it about?

To find out what I think it’s about — for me, anyway — read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!

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