The Hubby and I aren’t doing anything Valentine-sy today. Some years we do, some years we don’t. There are a lot of birthdays (including the Hubby’s) in January and February for us and Christmas has just ended. We’re usually pretty tired of celebrations by the time this fake holiday rolls around. About a week ago it went like this:
Me: Hey, you want to just pass on Valentine’s this year?
The Hubby: Yeah. I love you. You love me?
Me: Roger that.
The Hubby: Cool.
Follow that with a perfunctory married people smooch, and everyone can move on with their lives.
However, we are making a contribution to love and relationships today: We took a photo for an organization that’s doing a marriage equality campaign, which I learned about from my blogger buddy George W. who writes at Misplaced Grace. We thought Valentine’s would be a nice day to post it.
Some people think that marriage should only be between a man and a woman because, you know, God and stuff. And because they think that what’s right for them should apply to everyone everywhere. They think that when two men or two women have a marriage contract that allows them to enjoy the same civil rights and freedoms as their own, that straight marriage is somehow under attack.
The HSSE, Heterosexuals for Same Sex Equality,
thinks knows that idea is bullshit. This is their photo campaign. I don’t think you have to be heterosexual to participate (there are a lot of bisexual people in heterosexual marriages) but being married is key, so in a lot of cases that’s going to be opposite-sex partners. Personally, I think it would be AWESOME and ironical-like if some married same-sex couples from Vermont, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, New York, Washington D.C. and Iowa submitted photos, maybe with a little tag line about the state you were married in? Submit your photos to the HSSE Facebook page.
As long as marriage is recognized by government and offers certain privileges and rights under the law, those privileges and rights should be accessible to ANYONE who wants to make that legal commitment to each other. Marriage – in the eyes of the law – is a civil contract. How in great flaming hell does any other civil contract threaten or make a mockery of yours? That’s right, it doesn’t. Oh, and “civil unions”? “Domestic partnerships”? Gay people shouldn’t have to change the word that they use to describe their civil contract, i.e. MARRIAGE, to accommodate your religious beliefs. If you feel that your relationship’s connection to God is so special or so fragile that you can’t use the same word that teh gays use, maybe y’all should rename that.