[Content note: sexual assault]
There’s a project that’s just gotten funded through Kickstarter. It’s a book called Above the Game: A Guide to Getting Awesome With Women and it’s being written by a Redditor and pickup artist named Ken Hoinsky. Predictably, the book promises to help men meet and hook up with women.
5) Get CLOSE to her, damn it!
To quote Rob Judge, “Personal space is for pussies.” I already told you that the most successful seducers are those who can’t keep their hands off of women. Well you’re not gonna be able to do that if you aren’t in close!
All the greatest seducers in history could not keep their hands off of women. They aggressively escalated physically with every woman they were flirting with. They began touching them immediately, kept great body language and eye contact, and were shameless in their physicality. Even when a girl rejects your advances, she KNOWS that you desire her. That’s hot. It arouses her physically and psychologically.
Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.
Sex
Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.
Guess what! That’s sexual assault. “Forcing” her to “rebuff your advances” is sexual assault. “Grabbing her hand” and “putting it right on your dick” unless she’s consented is sexual assault. And while many people do indeed find it arousing when someone desires them, sexual assault is not arousing; it is assault, it is violation of others’ bodies, and it is a crime.
Wow, the year is 2013 and I really did just have to say that.
The idea that deep down, women want to be raped is some bullshit we can thank Sigmund Freud for. But it’s time for it to go.
Now, I know that some of you dudes are gonna be like “Yeah but it might help me get laid!” Sorry, but that’s completely fucking irrelevant. The reason crimes like sexual assault are crimes is not because committing them doesn’t benefit anyone, it’s because we’ve decided that they either 1) hurt others or 2) hurt society or both. Claiming that it should be okay to sexually assault someone because then you might get laid is like saying that it’s okay to steal because then you’ll get free stuff. (The point isn’t that sexual assault is equivalent to theft, but rather that the reasoning is just as morally and intellectually bankrupt.)
And no, it’s not enough to say that it’s the woman’s “job” to just “keep saying no.” It is your job not to touch people without their consent. If you can’t do that, then you’ve failed to meet the minimum standards for being a decent human being. Sorry!
Of course, Hoinsky knows he’s being a creepy asshole. These guys always do. He’s been spamming a Jezebel writer about it, hoping to get written up on the blog because “I showed it to my brother’s Jezebel-addicted ex-girlfriend and she went on a 3 hour diatribe about it. Your readers will eat it up!”
Giving attention to a person like this makes me feel desperately in need of a shower, but it’s also pretty important to me that this project not get funded. Here’s where Kickstarter comes in. Every project funded through the site has to be approved first, and the site approved this one. However, Kickstarter’s guidelines prohibit “offensive material (hate speech, etc.).” As we have seen with Facebook, sometimes companies don’t seem to realize that sexual assault is offensive and advocating sexual assault of women is hate speech. So, it seems that Kickstarter has fucked up a little here.
Sign this petition to ask them not to release the funds for the project. Also, go to the project page, scroll all the way to the bottom, and click on the button that says “Report this project to Kickstarter.” You might literally prevent a few sexual assaults. And if not, you’ll at the very least send a message that this is 2013 and this shit isn’t okay anymore. Not that it ever was.
Kickstarter has decided not to pull it. Because apparently, inciting sexual assault isn’t unlawful, offensive or obscene.
Assholes.
Cafe Press has a long history of similar behaviour, selling racist material or items that encourage assassination. They only stop when it affects their bottom line or they might face legal problems.
http://gawker.com/5408677/cafepress-is-officially-cool-with-selling-t+shirts-urging-people-to-pray-for-obamas-death
http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/02/29/10542854-online-store-cafepress-clobbered-for-racist-merchandise?lite
When I saw the first sentences, my thought was that I didn’t want to give this guy any publicity. But I see your response is more well-thought out than that. He appears to be advocating criminal behavior.
I have a suggestion as to another way people can respond.
I dont want to live on this planet anymore.
Disgusting. Signed the petition, reported to Kickstarter, tweeted. But as we say in Dutch, ik heb er een hard hoofd in…
“A Guide To Getting Awesome With Women”?
A more accurate subtitle would be:
“When you can’t get her to take rohypnal or GHB”
Gross indeed. I don’t agree with getting Kickstarter to pull it it but that’s maybe because I’m a bit of a free speech extremist. What I do hope though is that people won’t fund this and that more people will write online about how offensive and horrible that book is/will be.
Free speech does not guarantee anyone and everyone access to a particular platform, it means not restricting access to public platforms, and Kickstarter is well within its rights (legal and moral) to dictate what can and cannot be hosted with their service. In the same way that you’re under no obligation to allow me into your house to shout insults and threats at you, Kickstarter can (and should) restrict projects advocating violence against an entire class of people. The concept of free speech has no bearing on this issue.
Aaaaaaaand in a completely unrelated matter, this news story just appeared:
Looking over the cached Reddit page, there was one other thing that caught my eye (aside from the vile shit already pointed out above);
The author suggests that, to understand women, men should look for “chick porn” like -50 Shades of Grey-. After reading the sexual assault manual he posted, seeing him advice would-be seducers to read a book that seems to glorify abusive relationships (and severely misrepresent the BDSM community) is a terrible way to end an awful post.
Sorry, this project is no longer available.
We did it!
http://www.kickstarter.com/blog/we-were-wrong
Best apology I have read in ages – no mitigation, a concrete action plan to prevent future problems and a large donation to RAINN, anti-violence organisation.
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