Today is the seventeenth anniversary of my first date with my husband. I fed him soup. (Required disclaimer: My soup may be life-changing.) At least one young person in my connection considers ours the only really healthy adult relationship she’s ever known. I feel perfectly qualified to post this.
Stephanie Zvan is one of the hosts for the Minnesota Atheists' radio show and podcast, Atheists Talk. She serves on the board of Secular Woman. She speaks on science and skepticism in a number of venues, including science fiction and fantasy conventions.
Stephanie has been called a science blogger and a sex blogger, but if it means she has to choose just one thing to be or blog about, she's decided she's never going to grow up. In addition to science and sex and the science of sex, you'll find quite a bit of politics here, some economics, a regular short fiction feature, and the occasional bit of concentrated weird.
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16 thoughts on “Gay Marriage Doesn't Threaten Our Marriage”
hah. life changing indeed! as in ‘i wouldn’t have had much of it (life) if I hadn’t had much of it (soup!!). That Ben is a smart guy. Legalizing gay marriage strengthens the community in the same way hetero marriage does, and threatens no one.
Yup, there’s a whole lot of what Paul has to say in the NT that is supposed to teach what marriage is and isn’t (come to that, I have a bone to pick with him about a few things he was getting pretty nosy about!!) So, many christians will say confidently that gay marriage is wrong. But anyone who professes to know the mind of the creator is also wrong.
I married my husband to demonstrate my choice. To him, our family, our community, to God. To say that anyone else deserves less is silly…as all men and women are ‘created equal’. No one should lose equality because of….who they love 🙂
Happy valentines day!!
(caveat – no, not all marriages are created equal – see Brittany Spears, Hugh Hefner, Liz Taylor, Kim Kardashian….if we don’ outlaw marriage for those who trivialize it, we have no business outlawing it for any who take it seriously!!)
Happy anniversary!
Well, from a logical standpoint, lots of gay marriage should be good for my heterosexual one.
After all, the thing about homosexuals is that they’re seldomly interested in heterosexual extra-marital affairs!
😉
Yes, it’s an argument I fail to understand.
If heterosexual divorce doesn’t threaten marriage, how does gay marriage?
Oh, so that’s what the slogan is. Judging from the Thibeault photo I thought it was “Gay lemming does’n’treacle cur concertina purple monkey dishwasher.”
[…] Won’t Threaten Your Marriage Posted on February 19, 2012 by M J Shepherd(In response to this post.) About M J Shepherd Matthew is a recent graduate from Louisiana State University with a BA in […]
Actually, for those of us who don’t want to be part of an institution that discriminates against our neighbors, gay marriage improves our marriage.
Yes! When my wife and I were planning our wedding, it suddenly occurred to me that I was joining a discriminatory institution, something that I would never normally do. It wasn’t the same as joining some racist or sexist country club or, even, the Boy Scouts*, but how could I ask gay and lesbian friends to support and celebrate our marriage when the are denied the same?
(*I was never a Boy Scout, but several closeted agnostic/atheist or non-heterosexual friends were, forming their own troop, even. I think one finished as an Eagle Scout.)
Very cute :3
You’ll have to tell us the soup story now!
http://digitalcuttlefish.blogspot.com/2011/07/my-marriage-is-gay-today.html
Actually, for those of us who don’t want to be part of an institution that discriminates against our neighbors, gay marriage improves our marriage.
WHat the hell am I doing linking to my *old* blog? Sorry– http://freethoughtblogs.com/cuttlefish/2011/07/24/my-marriage-is-gay-today/
This message – and especially this picture – are absolutely perfect.
hah. life changing indeed! as in ‘i wouldn’t have had much of it (life) if I hadn’t had much of it (soup!!). That Ben is a smart guy. Legalizing gay marriage strengthens the community in the same way hetero marriage does, and threatens no one.
Yup, there’s a whole lot of what Paul has to say in the NT that is supposed to teach what marriage is and isn’t (come to that, I have a bone to pick with him about a few things he was getting pretty nosy about!!) So, many christians will say confidently that gay marriage is wrong. But anyone who professes to know the mind of the creator is also wrong.
I married my husband to demonstrate my choice. To him, our family, our community, to God. To say that anyone else deserves less is silly…as all men and women are ‘created equal’. No one should lose equality because of….who they love 🙂
Happy valentines day!!
(caveat – no, not all marriages are created equal – see Brittany Spears, Hugh Hefner, Liz Taylor, Kim Kardashian….if we don’ outlaw marriage for those who trivialize it, we have no business outlawing it for any who take it seriously!!)
Fantastic photograph in service of a fantastic initiative! (Love the Christopher-Lloyd-as-Doc-Brown line of rampant tuft on your husband’s pate.)
Still learning,
Robert
Perfect!
Mazel Tov!
I <3 this photo!
…and can I have some soup???? 🙂
Love this! It’s a really great quote for this subject.
That is a ridiculously cute photo.
Happy anniversary!
Well, from a logical standpoint, lots of gay marriage should be good for my heterosexual one.
After all, the thing about homosexuals is that they’re seldomly interested in heterosexual extra-marital affairs!
😉
Yes, it’s an argument I fail to understand.
If heterosexual divorce doesn’t threaten marriage, how does gay marriage?
Love the photo! Love your expressions!!
Oh, so that’s what the slogan is. Judging from the Thibeault photo I thought it was “Gay lemming does’n’treacle cur concertina purple monkey dishwasher.”
It makes so much more sense this way….
[…] Won’t Threaten Your Marriage Posted on February 19, 2012 by M J Shepherd(In response to this post.) About M J Shepherd Matthew is a recent graduate from Louisiana State University with a BA in […]
Yes! When my wife and I were planning our wedding, it suddenly occurred to me that I was joining a discriminatory institution, something that I would never normally do. It wasn’t the same as joining some racist or sexist country club or, even, the Boy Scouts*, but how could I ask gay and lesbian friends to support and celebrate our marriage when the are denied the same?
Although several FtBloggers have mentioned it, the http://www.facebook.com/TheHSSE could use a lot more ‘likes’ and contributions. Here is the photo of my wife, Kelly, our son, Clark (8 months), and me: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=216984331747163&set=a.160330007412596.28501.134557923323138&type=3
~Matt
(*I was never a Boy Scout, but several closeted agnostic/atheist or non-heterosexual friends were, forming their own troop, even. I think one finished as an Eagle Scout.)